Comments on: Shy guys

By: Donnie

Donnie — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 01:35:18 +0000

Huh. I got called away from my desk for ~10 minutes and have no idea what I was gonna say there. Ah, well!

This would work well on a tombstone.

Some people just aren’t cut out to be super social, and some need talking and company. The variety of types of humans is one of our great strengths.

By: gorckat

gorckat — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 15:37:44 +0000

personally, social situations give me hives. i detest mingling and schmoozing,

I’m a professional wallflower.

I have battled social anxiety disorder for awhile. I can interact with strangers just fine in known, established roles, such as waiter and patron. I can fulfill my role if you keep your end of the deal.

Cross a line, change the rules or get weird in some way, and all bets are off. I’ll get quite uncomfortable.

But once we’re friends, I’ll be walking into your apartment shirtless and sweaty even though you’re eating Thanksgiving dinner with your mother (long story, maybe some other time).

The other night Tom came on and pinged me first and I was much more comfortable starting up the conversation with him.

Might be

Huh. I got called away from my desk for ~10 minutes and have no idea what I was gonna say there. Ah, well!

By: Donnie

Donnie — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 14:57:03 +0000

@Wahrheit: A CHAPERONED visit? Talk about a turn-off…or an extra costly date if you have the wherewithal to bribe the chaperone.

“Etchings”. Interesting word.

@Annie: To allay your fears: You are not ugly. Due to a poor sense of smell, I can’t tell if you have bad breath. You are sometimes boring, but I am too so that’s OK.

As long as your hands are not on the other person’s face, feet, or groin, you are probably doing OK.

By: annie

annie — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 07:22:15 +0000

personally, social situations give me hives. i detest mingling and schmoozing, which is why every single friend in my circle is from either middle or high school.

Face to face is truly difficult; i honestly can’t do it. where do my hands go? is there something on my face? why did my conversation partner’s eyes just flick to something else just now? am I boring? am I ugly? Does my breath stink?

I’d rather just sit in a corner and watch people.

By: Wahrheit

Wahrheit — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 05:37:20 +0000

Your hierarchy makes a lot of sense–and drunknknite, back in the old days they just started with a friend-of-a-friend approach, then a note, a chaperoned visit and, eventually, getting busy. Of course the list isn’t just for romantic relationships, but chessloser’s not a man to waste a lot of time pretending to want to look at your etchings…

By: Donnie

Donnie — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 04:38:31 +0000

@chessloser: Mrs. chessloser wasn’t looking over your shoulder while you were typing that, right?

@drunknknite: If anyone lives near Lancaster, PA it would probably be easy to find out.

@Allen: Exactly, you publish the personal information of your enemies. (Sworn Enemy’s phone is 409-555-0101.)

By: Allen

Allen — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 20:46:41 +0000

Chessloser’s answer reminds me of why it is very important that you never publish your address or phone number online…

By: drunknknite

drunknknite — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:09:40 +0000

I’m wondering how silly this conversation would be if you brought it up to someone that was stuck in the past and didn’t have a cell phone or internet.

By: chessloser

chessloser — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 16:38:51 +0000

while i am not romantically interested in you (it’s not you, it’s me, i’m not gay) if i saw you on FICS i would say hi, and if i knew your phone number i would call you up and say hi, and if i knew where you lived i would drop by and stand outside your house looking at you from the windows and watch you shower, um, i mean, i would stop by and say hi….